My birthday is around the corner and as usual every year around this time I get into a reflective state… What have I achieved this year? What have I struggled with? What were the highlights?What lessons have I learned? What areas do I need to work on?… you get the drift… The past two years have been kind of strange though because even though I was (and still am) super grateful to God for giving me another birthday, there was a constant nagging and a tight knot in my stomach accompanied with this thought “30 is approaching fast and I don’t have it all figured out yet…”.
Thankfully for me this feeling and way of thinking wouldn’t linger or persist and I’d be on to the next thought/ project or life event… but now I can’t help but wonder how many people in their late twenties are in a constant state of anxiety and wonderment about turning 30 and dealing with societal pressures and expectations that come with this milestone. As babies the development milestones are much more straightforward and somewhat easier to achieve, there’s growth, teething, walking, talking, smiling, starting school which comes with reading writing, counting etc.
As an adult, the milestones are still there and the pressure to achieve them increases with age. Failure to achieve said milestones i.e. #CareerGoals #MarriageGoals #FamilyGoals #FriendshipGoals #HolidayGoals #LifeGoals can prove rather disappointing and discouraging to say the least. You’re not the only one affected by your delayed milestones achievements; the people closest to you are affected in various ways too. Parents, guardians and mentors may ask themselves “didn’t I do enough?” Well meaning friends may be at a total loss of how to console/assist you. Quite frankly it’s not easy!
So today’s blogpost is for all the late twenty somethings who have ever experienced these thoughts or feelings. I want to share the following observations that have absolutely made my late twenties relatively anxiety/panic stricken free:
You Have the Ability to Claim Your Twenties!
Yes your twenties are for having fun, living life, exploring, diversifying, experimenting and finding yourself. But so are all the other years/decades of your life. Please do not buy into the hype that your twenties are some sort of throw away decade because that is a big fat lie! Every decade and second of life we get is an absolutely precious gift from God that we should use wisely and NOT waste!
You Reap What you Sow!
This is a kingdom principle that applies throughout all ages! Galatians 6:7-9 reads:
7Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.
8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.
9 And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.
In our teens and twenties we’re full of dreams and aspirations and vision however some of us stop at just that-the dreaming and visualizing of goals and milestones that we desire to achieve without actually putting in the work to achieve them. You can’t have expectations and expect them to be met without putting in the work… it just doesn’t happen. And another big lesson is that it may take time and there will be many obstacles, challenges and fires to put out but you have to persist and persevere because as God’s words says in due season you will reap if you faint not!
Persist & Persevere!
So maybe you’re 27 or maybe you’re 29 and your life isn’t working out the way you had anticipated. Things that seem natural and come easy to most aren’t so easy and seamless for you. I get it trust me and I know it’s easy to want to give into your feelings of frustration and anger and just throw in the towel and give up however what difference will that make? Really ask yourself, if I give in to frustration from delayed milestones what will that achieve? I can assure you that the answer to that question is nothing but more frustration! So persist and persevere through it- whatever it is a career not taking off, inability to be financially independent, a struggling business or successful, failed relationships etc… Whatever it is for you, persist and persevere!
Remember you do not belong to yourself, you were created by Yahweh for a purpose. He designed specifically for that purpose and instilled in you everything you require to achieve said purpose. Yes some days are hard so hard that you might not even make it out of bed let alone want to take another breath however remember in due season you will reap if you faint not!
I want to leave y’all with a TED talk by clinical psychologist Meg Jay that really sums up my thoughts and feelings about the late twenties pressure trap to the big 30! I hope you gain from it as much if not more than I did!
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