We have all been through one or several life changing moments some good, some bad and others that are just downright devastating; whichever the case, these moments change our world and existence as we know it, they change the normal mundane routines that we become so accustomed to, to give us a “new normal“. What are some of these moments? Let’s start with the bad/devastating: it may be the death of a parent, sibling or loved one or even someone you hated, a miscarriage, it could be a medical diagnosis like cancer, it may be getting fired from your dream job, becoming homeless, a breakup, going to prison, getting a divorce, closing your business, declaring bankruptcy…. you get the idea. Now the good: getting a promotion, landing your dream job, having children, surviving a terminal illness, starting your own business, running a profitable business, making your first big purchase, moving out, graduating, finding and living out your life’s purpose, getting married…
Yes all these life altering moments make up your new normal. And whether the moments are good, bad or devastating I think there are three things that you need to do to survive your new normal:
Accept your new normal
Learn how to move on and exist in your new normal
Learn how to thrive in your new normal
I know it sounds insensitive especially if the moment that has caused your new normal is bad or devastating… I don’t mean to come off as preachy or insensitive. I’ve had my fair-share of bad life altering moments and a few devastating ones too, as I’m sure you have too. And I can assure you that no matter how hard I tried to wallow in my sorrow, or anger or give up, I kept waking up afresh each day, like clock work, I found myself sleeping at the end of each day, going through the day and waking up to a new day until days turned into weeks, weeks into months and months into years. In some cases what you’re going through may be so devastating that you want the earth to literally open up and swallow you but like me and many others you keep waking up afresh each and every single day…
When good things happen, there’s joy and euphoria but sometimes negative emotions such as guilt, ungratefulness, being overwhelmed and not feeling like you deserve it..can take over….
Whatever the life altering moment, good, bad or devastating; your life has now changed, your present is now different and your future altered. Learning to accept, move on, exist and thrive in your new normal should be your daily assignment because as long as you keep waking up each day, as long as God continues to give you life each day you cannot afford to die! You cannot afford to die literally, spiritually, mentally or emotionally! Don’t forget your dreams, don’t forget your purpose in life (God’s will for your life). Have vigor, strength, resilience, endurance and persistence!
Remember that even in your darkest of moments you’re not alone..
For He Himself has said, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”So we may boldly say: “TheLordismy helper;I will not fear. What can man do to me?” Hebrew 13:5-6
“…When I sit in darkness the Lord shall be a light upon me”. Malaci 7:8
It is not all in vain
God blesses those who patiently endure testing and temptation. Afterward they will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love him. James 1:12
I will leave you with a very inspiring sermon by Dephne Madyara entitled “You Cannot Afford to Die”. I hope that it will bless you!