28 Lessons in 28 Years…

Yes you guessed it I’m an year older and what an year it has been….but I won’t get into that instead I want to share 28 lessons I’ve learned in my 28 years of living.


  1. Life is not fair

Yes, life is absolutely not fair…. I know it’s a bit of a harsh one to start with but it’s the truth and the earlier you accept this truth the easier uphill seasons will be… Matthew 5:45 “…that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends the rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”

2. Life doesn’t owe you anything

Another harsh one but also very true. Life absolutely doesn’t owe you anything.

3. Life has many seasons

There is a season for everything. I think the key is to strike a balance…what I mean is don’t rush to the next season and ask for discernment and wisdom to journey through your current season. Of course this is much easier typed than done.

Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8

1 There is a time for everything,
    and a season for every activity under the heavens:

    a time to be born and a time to die,
    a time to plant and a time to uproot,
    a time to kill and a time to heal,
    a time to tear down and a time to build,
    a time to weep and a time to laugh,
    a time to mourn and a time to dance,
    a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
    a time to embrace and a time to refrain from embracing,
    a time to search and a time to give up,
    a time to keep and a time to throw away,
    a time to tear and a time to mend,
    a time to be silent and a time to speak,
    a time to love and a time to hate,
    a time for war and a time for peace.

4. Nothing in Life is permanent

There’s a phrase, a very common “christianese” phrase that is a go to when encouraging fellow believers “this too will pass“. It comes from Ecclesiastes 3: 1There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens So be encouraged if you’re going through a rough time and enjoy yourself if you’re going through a joyful season.

5. Count your blessings

I cannot stress how much you should incorporate this in your daily routine. You’ll soon start to shift your focus on the things you have as opposed to the things you don’t have. Make it a 21 day challenge. I promise you will not regret it!

6. Be grateful for the small and big things in life

Until you walk a mile in someone else’s shoes you truly won’t know what they are going through. This past year I have been exposed to so many situations, some were personal and the rest were things people in my life are going through. This has been my biggest take home. It’s all about perspective…what’s small to you is what someone else is praying fervently for and vice versa… so just be grateful.

7. Don’t take people for granted

Life is so unpredictable you never know when you’ll draw your last breath or when your loved ones will pass away so don’t take them for granted. As cliche as this sounds love on them and appreciate them when you’re still together… I think this should apply for everyone you cross paths with…smile, say thank you, say hi, be kind… I know it’s not always easy especially when you’re in a bad mood…

8. Don’t take things for granted

Ask yourself what you would do without the material possessions and routines you’re accustomed to? Really think about it… your bed, your home, your job, your clothes, your shoes… Once I broke it down like that it really made me pause and appreciate everything I have… I’m working on being consistent with that now.

9. The way in which you deliver/say something really matters

Proverbs 5:14 “The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit”. 

This is definitely a working progress for me but now more than ever I understand the power of words and how they are said…

10. Family is very important-cherish them

I know that not everyone has a family and that not everyone’s family is “ideal”… I really understand that. I’m grateful for my family, I haven’t always been but now more than ever I am!

11. Family can also be your downfall

I’ll just leave this here and say be wise…

12. If someone chooses to no longer be a part of your life, let them leave don’t be clingy…

I don’t know whether this is for everyone but in my case this is true..

13. Nobody cannot take the place of God in your life….

No one not even a pet can fill that void in your heart only God can… I’ve learnt that your relationship with God is the one you should work on the most…

14. Good works cannot trump salvation…

We are re-united with God because of Jesus Christ. He paid the price. I really love Hebrew 7:25 “Therefore He is able to save completely those who come to God through him, because he always lives to intercede for them”. It reminds me not to get caught up in trying to”buying” or “earning” salvation…

15. Perfection is illusive

Jesus was and is the only perfect, flawless, sinless and blameless man to walk on this earth. I don’t think perfection should be the goal…obedience and being in right standing with God (righteousness) should be.

16. Your attitude really matters

Learn to accept, embrace and thrive in the “process/journey” especially in the tough moments…

17. Friends can become family

I’m pleasantly surprised at how true this has been for me this past year. Asanteni sang to all the friends in my life who have become family.

18. Friends can become frenemies

Sadly this is true… I think it’s always important to ask for wisdom and discernment when choosing friends. Proverbs 12:26 “The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray.”

19. Not everyone deserves a spot in your life…

Compartmentalizing people in your life may seem mean, cold and calculative…but it saves you from a lot of unnecessary heartache. I suggest creating your own level of friendship and interactions scale e.g.

Level 1: Outer circle

Level 2: Inner circle

Level 3: Innermost circle

20. Pray

Prayer is essential, it is not an option! A verse that has really spoken to me about prayer is Jeremiah 29:12 “The Lord is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth”.

21. Read & Study the word of God

Hebrew 4:12 “For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.” I would highly recommend incorporating reading, studying and meditating into your daily routine.

22. Work hard, work diligently and work as unto the Lord.
23. Every action has a consequence…

Everything you say, feel, think and do has a consequence whether it’s immediate or distant…and depending on what it is, people in our lives stand to be victims of our actions…

24. Love yourself!
25. Discover God’s will for your life and live it every day
26. You are what you eat
27. Cultivate the discipline of saving & investing.

The earlier the better!

28. Invest in eternity

Matthew 6: 19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

There it is… a lot of it is very cliche I know…but I hope that some if it is new and helpful!

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One Reply to “28 Lessons in 28 Years…”

  1. counting my blessings naming them one by one,life works with seasons have been great for me.You speak about friends.Wow,i recently lost a close friend and that thing shook me.I have never lost a friend and so when it came time for me to actually say enough and we can no longer be friends i didn’t know how to handle it.Thank you for giving me pointers on the same.To a great favoured 28th year in your life.

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